I can't be the only one

October 26, 2016  •  Leave a Comment

Ok, tell me if it's just me. Does anyone else feel like they are going through whatever grade their child is in? My son is in the 6th grade and I feel like I am his classmate. Everyday there's homework and everyday he needs help. To be fair he doesn't always ask me for it, but believe me, he needs it. Not only am I helping him, but I feel like an inspector because I have to make sure that he not only does it correctly, but that it is complete. I don't know about you, but my son's homework is the last thing that I want to do after working all day.

This week I have been volunteering at my son's school in addition to my regular tasks. Ok, so that one is on me. This week they are having the book fair, so I am showing my support. Woohoo. Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy helping out, but sometimes it just gets to be too much. I think after is week, I'll try to relax. Not really sure if relaxation is in the cards for me, but we will see. I wonder if I could clone myself, would it really help? Somehow I think extra tasks would be added to my already full list. 

I'm not going to lie, I am truly tired. Everyday I play mom's taxi, work, help with homework, cook, supervise all things little boys and then go to bed.  Did you see the word relax anywhere in that list? I did not. I would love to just relax at the end of the day. But my mini me won't let me. I'm not saying that he is diabolical or anything, it's just that he's an excellent time waster and is quite effective at wasting my time. I've tried so many things and have yet to find the right trigger for him that will make him stay focused and get his butt in gear. I've tried timers, punishments, rewards, nothing seems to work. I guess it's just in his DNA, which unfortunately I believe he got from me. I hate to admit it but I am a procrastinator and time waster. When I was in college I could never go to bed before midnight, no matter how hRd I thought I tried. If I'm not careful, I can waste massive amounts of time doing inane tasks.

Since I am cognizant of these traits, I do work to combat them. For one, I set time goals to finish projects so they don't drag on.  I also make a list of what I want to accomplish that day. If I don't, there is no telling what, if anything, I will be doing. I think that I developed these strategies as a latchkey kid. When you don't have any adult supervision and you know you need to get stuff done, you find a way. Perhaps my son leans on me a little too much. I've already tried to let him be independent, but that didn't work like I thought it would, so.back to the supervision. I've already told him that I will not be helping him with his homework in high school. Let's all hope he has it together before then. 

If anyone has any great ideas to share on this topic, please let me know. Maybe if I can get him to focus that might mitigate the issue. Yet another trait he gets from me, but not the skill to reign himself in. Ah well, I will keep trying things to see what works. Wish me luck!


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