Know your worth | life lessons

October 19, 2016  •  1 Comment

Every week I have to come up with something to blog about. I'm sure some topics are a bit more interesting than others, but I do try to make them interesting. I have found that the ones that seem most popular are the ones that deal with life and sometimes my life. We all have struggles that we must overcome and I of course, am no different. There are struggles in our home life and our work life that we must deal with. What has been pressed upon me to talk about is knowing your worth. To be somewhat specific, knowing our worth as women and in some cases, entrepreneurs.

As many of you may have noticed, there is a whole lot of misogyny going around. Believe me, this is nothing new. We just can't get free from all of the misogyny that is swirling about. People talking negatively about women or trying to treat women as less than a person. Misogyny is part of the culture, unfortunately, but as Martin Luther King, Jr. said "A man can only ride your back if it's bent." Yes, I went there because it is so true. People will treat you however you allow them to. When you know your worth as a human being and a woman, you will not let anyone mistreat you or mislead you or tell you what they think you are worth.

I started thinking about this topic last week because of an email exchange I had with a potential client. This week the topic was reinforced by another potential client. Basically they tried telling me that they thought my products and services weren't worth what I was charging. I'm sorry....what? (Before I go any further, I just want to tell you this honestly is not about my pricing or the pricing of photography in general.) Do you know what my reaction was when I read/heard that? I smiled. I didn't get defensive or feel the need to justify my prices to them. I smiled and told them very politely, "Thank you very much for your input and I wish you much luck in finding the right photographer for you."  Do you know why I stayed so calm? Because I knew they weren't my client and I knew that I am worth every penny that I charge, if not more. I have that type of confidence. Now starting out many years ago, I think I would have been trying to make deals with them to get them to book, but not anymore. I now know my worth and there are plenty of people who value what I do.

Something else I learned is that nothing is expensive. Well, almost nothing. The only things that can be considered expensive are commodities/essentials like food,  gas or toilet paper. I just don't think that non-essentials can be expensive. You either value that non-essential item or you don't. If you value it, you will pay whatever that price is. If you do not value it, then you will skip it and move on to the next thing. I know women who save up for Coach bags, but that's not something that I would do because I don't value Coach bags. Same principle applies to people. If someone values you as a person, they will respect you, listen to you and assist you if and when you need it (being that they are able to, of course.) If someone does not value you as a person, then they will try to tell you who you are and treat you however they feel. Those are the types of people you don't need in your life.

If you have ever seen women hate on other women for no good reason, it is because they don't know their own worth. They believe bringing down another woman who seems to have her self together will make them worthwhile, but we all know that it does not. Insecurity is a byproduct of not knowing your worth. If you can't even value yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?

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Great post great topic of discussion.
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