My hiatus from facebook

October 12, 2016  •  Leave a Comment

Let me just say that facebook is not my favorite platform. I do enjoy seeing family and friends that I don't see on a regular basis, but all of the other stuff is just too much. Facebook has allowed me to catch up with people I went to college with, as well as high school and even some elementary friends. How cool is that? The thing I wasn't expecting is how much we all have changed. Generally when you look back at your younger years, you tend to focus on the good times. Sure there were awkward moments, which are funny now, but there was nothing like today. As children, most of us were oblivious to what was going on all over our country or even in other countries. We didn't know what anything outside of our little worlds had to do with us. Now that many of us have our own children, we understand the lasting effects of our parents' and their parents' actions and decisions.

Currently I have been off of facebook for about a month. Mind you, I have been using facebook since the early 2000s. I have enjoyed catching up with family and friends and sharing the day to day stuff with them. But lately other things have become quite prominent on facebook. I don't know if you've noticed, but people seem to be getting nastier in their comments and what they post. It's almost like some people want to see what is the worst thing they can possibly say and who will it piss off. I used to try to provide a different side to some people's comments, if I had the time and was in the mood because sometimes people just need to be corrected/challenged. That was rather time consuming, so I had to stop that. So, I've gotten really good at just scrolling right past all of the craziness, but evidently I came across the straw that broke the camel's back. Said straw is what made me step away for a minute.

I'm not an overly sensitive person, but I do have a limit on the amount of negativity I will be subjected to. It's difficult to stay positive when you're constantly being bombarded with negativity. Election seasons are perfect for negativity and that is why I hate them so. I absolutely loathe election seasons, but they are a necessary evil. Hmmmm, a necessary evil. Just let that sink in. Why is evil necessary? Ok, that's another post for another day.

Without getting into too much detail, I became frustrated on facebook because people who I've known for quite some time took a particular position, which I thought was rather disingenuous. I don't mind when people disagree with me, but when you totally ignore the point of someone's actions, even after they were explained to you, then you are telling me that you just don't care. I probably should have said something to them on facebook, but I was so not in the mood for a showdown, because that's what it would have been. What gets me is when you do have a difference of opinion and then you're called every name but a child of God. That right there speaks volumes. Some people I do expect this type of behavior from, others were a complete surprise. To be clear, I wasn't called out of my name by people I know. Now some of their friends may be a different issue.

Perhaps I hold civility too high. Perhaps being polite is a thing of the past. Maybe all or at least most of this ugliness will go away after the election, but I doubt it. This election has brought out the ugliness that has been lurking around for centuries. It's in your face now and it really doesn't look like it's going away. People who felt shackled by decorum have been freed and they are letting loose all that they have kept hidden. It may be cathartic for them, but I think it's detrimental to us all. Sure, I believe that people have the right to say what they want to say, but just because you can doesn't mean you should. Basically if what you have to say is not constructive, then what's the point? If your only reason for saying it is to be derisive, keep that mess to yourself. That type of talk does no one any good. Now if you have something to say that may not be all that nice but necessary, then by all means go for it.  The point in life is to move forward, not backward. Nothing in the past will change, but you can change the trajectory of your future.

At some point I feel I will return to facebook, but I just don't know when. It's like jumping double dutch...I'm still waiting for the right time to jump in. I do hope everyone votes. Remember, there are 5 people running for President. Consider all of them. Make the best choice for you. Pick someone you can stand behind with a clear conscience, whom you think will do the best job. That's all anyone can ask.


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