Oh to be grateful | life lessons

August 03, 2016  •  Leave a Comment

​Ok, is it just me or does anyone else feel that their child(ren) is/are not grateful for all that they have? I don't know about you, but it drives me up a wall? Just this weekend my son and I hung out with some very special people at this place called Fun Junction (formerly Dixieland). Never heard of it? Well think of it as a small, country version of Six Flags. Kind of like those fairs that travel, but they don't go anywhere. They have rollercoasters, some rides that spin and turn, drop you from heights, zip lines, a water ride, go karts (adult version and junior version). Oh, they also have driving jalopies, two mini golf courses, a full arcade, an indoor playground for the smaller children and they sell snacks. I think that covers it, for the most part. Plus it's not very expensive. So if you want to avoid major crowds, you can go there. Since we went after a storm, there weren't very many people there nor did we have to wait long for rides. 

Anyway, while we were taking a break from playing in the arcade, my son and his godbrother start lamenting on the fact that they only have so many tickets. You know those tickets you win when playing arcade games like skeeball.  "I only have 4 tickets." "I only have 12." Really? REALLY? Here we are having fun on a nice summer day and all you can think about is how many tickets you have or don't have? Have you seen those crappy prices that they give out for tickets? By the time you win enough tickets to get something decent, you could have bought it for much less. But they don't understand that.

So while we're sitting at the table, I had to stop them and let them know how privileged they are. Of course they didn't want to hear it, but I didn't care. My best friend nor I want our children to grow up to be the type of people who take everything for granted or worse yet, feel entitled to any and everything. Evidently this is a constant lesson that I have to repeat to my son.  He's only eleven and his godbrother is 10, so I suppose they still have time to learn, but it's just so annoying. I suppose the reason it bothers me so is because I know what it's like not to be able to have certain things or experiences. Having to work when I was in high school in order to be able to participate in any extracurricular activities. My mom worked two jobs and wasn't home much, so a lot of the things that I did, I did on my own. I learned to be very independent, which was a good and bad thing, but that's a whole other story. I do want my son to be independent, but I'm not sure if I am totally ready for it. 

Raising a child is a very challenging and rewarding experience. You try to train them up to be the best possible person they can be. I know I want my son to be kind, empathetic, giving, polite, strong, self-assured, open-minded, confident, honest, hardworking and straightforward. That's just the beginning. We all want so much for our children, but them not being grateful or feeling entitled is not what we want. The only things they are entitled to are people being respectful to them and opportunities to succeed. 


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