Life is short, love hard
I know, I know, normally I'm Sally Sunshine, but not today. I received some really sad news last week and it just broke my heart. This is one of those times where I'm glad I'm a photographer, but I'm sad about it too.
Ok, so last week I received an email via my contact page from a client asking me to contact her as soon as possible. Her youngest daughter's name was in the the subject line, so I figured it was because I had just photographed her newborn portraits back in July. Even though my studio was technically closed when I received the email, I wanted to see what she needed since it seemed urgent. Well, it was urgent and devastating.
When I called her she was very calm, but in an eerie sort of way. She then told me that her 2 month old daughter passed away from SIDS. For those of you who do not know, SIDS is Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. It's just like the name implies, when an infant dies for no apparent reason. When she told me this, I was overwhelmed with grief. I didn't know what to say. One thing I knew I had to do was to keep it together while I was talking to her, but it was difficult to hold back the tears.
For a few moments I was just speechless. The only words I could muster were "Oh my God. I'm so sorry." I can only imagine the emotions she and her family are going through. There are times when you just don't know what to say and this was definitely one of them. The only thing I could offer up were prayers and to this day I still pray for them.
Losing a child is something I would never wish on anyone. Just knowing how I feel about my son enables me to envision what it might be like if I ever lost him. That is so not a pleasant thought. I believe a major void would be left in my soul if anything happened to him.
We often think that we have plenty of time to do whatever, go wherever, be whomever. Often times we might say "Oh, I'll do it later" or "I'll visit them later." What happens when later never comes? When we love someone, we must love them unconditionally, wholly and fearlessly. We make sure they know we love them, so if anything were ever to happen to us they would know they were loved.
Just from what I know about my client, I know they loved that child beyond measure. I remember holding her while she slept during the portrait session. It was such a peaceful moment and briefly took me back to when my son was that young. Holding him was the best thing ever. I'm glad I was able to make special memories for them. I will continue to pray for all of them to find peace and to live to love another day.
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