Do it scared | atlanta portrait photographer
Last week my son was out of school for four days because of tropical storm Irma. Monday was when she came to Atlanta and we lost power. Our power didn't return until the following morning. If you want to read about that experience, you can click here. They were out of school all week until Friday because the power was not on in all of the schools in our county and there were downed trees and electrical wires. Some schools had trees on their roofs as well. Don't even mention all of the spoiled food that had to be replaced. It was a mess! I felt like I lived in a snow globe that had just been shaken.
Anyway, it was time to go back to school. Of course, I and many others were thinking, "Why go back to school for one day?" Aw well, I don't run the county so we just followed the rules. The day started off normally. My son got up and dressed and I made him breakfast. His dad got up and took him to the school bus shuttle not too far from our house. Before my husband returned home from dropping him off I received a text from my son stating, "I'm the only chapel on the bus and we're already off the stop." At the end of the message, there's a worried emoji with a single tear. Of course, I needed clarification. So we went back and forth trying to figure out what was going on. He wanted me to verify that they were traveling in the correct direction by asking me what direction they should be going. I told him south and then east. Just to tell you how worried he was, he was using his compass to track his direction and from what it was telling him, he wasn't going in the correct direction.
So I told him to ask the bus driver where are they going. He was nervous considering he didn't know where they were going and didn't know anyone on the bus. He said when he did ask everyone looked at him funny and that made him not want to ask any more questions. That's when I explained that he had to ask so that I would know where to pick him up. He waited until all of the other children got off the bus and asked the bus driver. That's when he told me the name of the "blue school". So I suggested he ask the bus driver if there was somewhere he could wait while I came to pick him up. The next text read, "She's driving again." I urged him to ask the bus driver where she was going to, but he was afraid. Sidenote: he can be a little shy at times. I explained that I understand that, but sometimes you just have to do things regardless of how scared or nervous you are. He would rather me track him with my iPhone than to ask her. I tracked him and he asked her and eventually made it to his own school and wasn't late.
I was happy he made it to his own school and once I see the bus driver I will thank her with a little gift I got for her. On my personal Facebook page, I recounted this very same tale. Some of my friends wondered if I panicked. Just to let you know, I did not. Panicking is not something that I do. I am a little bit of a control freak and panicking is not allowed. Besides, it's difficult to make good decisions if you're panicking and at the time I did not feel my son was in danger. He just wasn't where he needed to be, but for all intents and purposes he was safe. Now had he been wandering around somewhere by himself, that may have been a little different, but thank goodness for technology.
This whole ordeal started because he thought he was getting on the right bus, but it turned out he wasn't. The sad thing is that his schoolmates (notice I didn't say friends) saw him getting on the wrong bus, but no one said anything. I thought, "This is a good teaching moment." I sat my son down and explained that even when you're scared, sometimes there are things that need to be done. He needed to find out where he was and where he was going if I was going to be able to help him. He needed to be brave and just ask. Being brave is not losing all of your fear. It means doing what needs to be done even though you have that fear. I also explained that he must choose his friends wisely because as was demonstrated, everyone is not always your friend. Had his best friend been there, I have no doubt he would have at least asked him why was he getting on that bus. The last lesson was that no matter how good you are or how much you do right, people will only focus on what you did wrong. Even if people laugh at you or look at you funny if there is something you need to know or do, learn it or do it in spite of those people. People will not always be there for you. You must be there for you.
It's going to take continued support for him to gain more confidence in himself and my husband and I will be right there to push him along. I know exactly how he feels because I was the same way. You get to a point where certain things need to be done and they can only be done by you. I believe this message is for anyone, not just my 12-year-old. We all have our own fears and sometimes we get in our own way because of them. We need to learn to work through the fear. Don't wait for the fear to subside, because it might never subside. Push through to your successes to get what you want or need. Yes, it's easier said than done, but you'll never know until you try. If you know someone who can benefit from this blog, please share because sharing is caring unless it's a canker sore or the flu, then you can keep that.
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