Listening is hard | atlanta child photographer

September 27, 2017  •  Leave a Comment

Listening is hard. No, I mean really listening and hearing what is being said to you is hard. It seems like a simple task, but it's not. Every day we talk to people but do we really listen to them, especially if they say something that we don't agree with? In today's climate that seems to be a lost art. There are so many people talking but not enough listening. I'll be the first to admit that it can be difficult to hear a dissenting voice. Some things are just hard to hear. In order for there to be some understanding, you must first listen.

As a child, listening is how we learned. Children are eager to learn and that's a wonderful thing. As we get older, many of us lose that love of learning. We form opinions on everything and shut out opinions that are not like ours. We know that we are right and others who disagree are wrong. But wait, aren't opinions just what you think and how you feel about something? They may be rooted in facts, but they themselves are not facts. Opinion by definition is in general, a judgment, viewpoint or statement that is not conclusive. It may deal with subjective matters in which there is no conclusive finding. What distinguishes fact from an opinion is that facts are more likely to be verifiable. So with that said, an opinion is neither right nor wrong, per se. Sure you can prove your case by interjecting facts that help bolster your point, but in the end are you really right or wrong? In the grand scheme of things does it matter? Will you win a prize? If it will institute a change for the better, then yes it's important.

If you haven't been living under a rock and you do have electrical power, then you know what's been going on for the past view days, weeks, months, whatever. If you're like me you've noticed that there has been a lot of talking, but not a whole lot of listening. We all must listen to each other no matter how difficult it may be. You may not like what is being said, but when you understand why it is being said, perhaps that will help in your comprehension. I remember when my son was about 6 or 7 and he told me that he wanted green eyes. My son has beautiful brown eyes so of course, I was surprised at this admission. I started to wonder if he was having an identity crisis because the next door neighbor's child has sort of hazel green eyes that change color. So instead of getting upset with the little bit of information that he gave me, I decided to ask him why. He told me because green was his favorite color. How simple was that? I could have taken that little bit of information and ran, but I needed to find out why he felt that way. I know this is a simplistic example, but it still shows the importance of listening.

Do you realize how many conflicts can and probably would have been resolved if people would just listen to each other? It's not all about agreement or disagreement. It's about understanding someone's viewpoint instead of just writing their viewpoint off as invalid because they don't agree with you. We all want to get out points across but what's the point if no one is listening? When you're having a discussion and no one is listening, that is no longer a discussion. That is an argument.


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