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How to keep your sanity | atlanta portrait photographer

October 25, 2017  •  Leave a Comment

In this day and age, it is so difficult to keep your cool. I mean there is so much going on ALL of the time. There's also so much that needs to be done ALL of the time. Do you know sometimes I hate walking through my house because I know I'm going to see something else that needs to be done? Being a wife, mother, and solopreneur keeps me very busy. If I'm doing photography work I'm making dinner, washing clothes, driving my son somewhere, volunteering or helping with homework. It really is a grueling schedule. Am I stressed? Not really. Tired, yes. Stress is something I try to keep to a minimum. The only other thing I try to keep lower than stress is drama. As I like to say, the only drama I like is on ABC.

So, how do I keep from stressing, you ask? It's a number of things. One is the motto that I live by. If I can't change it, then I'm not going to stress about it. Why spend precious time worrying about something that is going to happen regardless of what I do or don't do? If nothing I do can deviate the course or whatever, then why am I stressing myself out about it? Sure, I still get nervous about some things, but I don't stress to the point of losing sleep or my hair falling out. Often times stress comes about because we don't know what is going to happen. My son is a "what if" kid. He always asks me what if [insert something bad] happens. That's when I counter with, "What if something good happens?" Why always look on the negative side of things? Life is filled with pros and cons. I prefer to look at the pros when I don't know what's going to happen and when I have no control over the situation. Now if I can affect change, then I will weigh the pros and cons of all that is involved and make my decision. 

Another way I stay mostly stress-free is by ignoring all of the drama. If any of you have accounts on Facebook, then you know what I'm talking about. It appears that keyboard courage runs rampant over there. I try not to log on every day because I know I'm going to see something that will make me roll my eyes. When I do log on, I check the groups that I'm a part of and see what my friends and family are doing. If it's someone's birthday I'll send a nice birthday message. Perhaps I'll comment on my wall with a funny anecdote regarding a conversation with my son or just post some information about Lifeline Animal Services. Now there are days when I am feeling a little mischievous and I may post something that is somewhat provocative or I might respond to someone's egregious comment. But that's not stressful for me, it's entertainment.

My parents always taught me to treat people like I want to be treated. Even in heated debates, I am very cordial. Besides, those conversations aren't really that deep for me. I'm not emotionally invested, therefore I won't go all psycho over a disagreement. Happiness is a choice and I always try to choose happiness. I am who dictates my mood. I am responsible for how I interact with people. If I stay on a positive tract, I attract positivity. I exude positivity. It's rather difficult to be stressed when you're in a positive state of mind.

Half the battle of being stress-free is fought in your mind. I know that I can't do everything and that's okay. There are things that I may be a little behind on, but I know I will get it done sooner or later. In fact, I've been cleaning my desk for months, literally. It's still not done. It is a work in progress. A messy work in progress, but a work in progress nonetheless. I do most things on my schedule, which is a great help for me. I don't like being tied down by other people's schedules if I can help it. But because I manage my own schedule, it makes everything else so much easier for me. 

You have to do what you feel works for you when eliminating the stress in your life. Just to reiterate, I don't stress over things that I have no control over and that includes people. As an aside, I think my son is the only one who truly stresses me, but I think that's all a part of motherhood. Continuing on...I keep a positive attitude and try to avoid drama like the plague. As a friend of mine likes to say "When you see a pot of crazy don't stir it. You might get some on you." Other ways would be to get a massage, read a book, take a soothing bath. If you like shopping (I don't) do that. Whatever frees your mind and takes it off of your stressors, do that. Oh and if you have a significant other, spending time with them can also help too and I'm not talking about conversation! Well, I guess that can work too.


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